Then, down the road, comes the exclamation ‘If I had only known...’. As a Psychotherapist who has worked with mostly women and a few men in the field of Domestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can always trace back unpleasant and also dangerous character traits to the very start of the relationship.
Here are some                ‘Red Flags’ to watch out for in a new partner.
             
- He makes                  decisions about where to go with little or no input from you.                                    
 - He belittles                  your opinion when the two of you are alone and may call you names.                                    
 - He makes                  disparaging remarks about you in front of others and may talk                  about you as if you were not there.                   
 - He may be                  rough during love-making and make you engage in acts you do not                  like.                   
 - He does not                  want to spend time with your friends or family and insists you                  socialize with his people.                   
 - He will not                  acknowledge your areas of expertise and may put down what you                  do in the workplace - ignore any of your accomplishments.                   
 - He may openly                  flirt with other women and then accuse you of being jealous when                  you object.                   
 - He gets angry                  and loses his temper over trivialities. Stays angry for a long                  time and attempts to blame all arguments on you.                   
 - May hit walls                  when angry.                   
 - One of the                  main factors is that he comes on very strong in the beginning                  of your relationship - sweeps you off your feet - and wants an                  exclusive relationship too quickly. Many women feel flattered                  at the intensity of the man’s seeming need for an immediate connection                  and consequently overlook the inappropriateness of it.                   
*This should not be confused with ‘love at first sight’ where one or both parties feel an instant connection - without any of the aforementioned behaviors.*
 
There are many other factors that could be listed - but if the man in your life begins displaying the above qualities - realize it will not get better, only worse. He will likely be unwilling to discuss his emotions openly and feel that women are the inferior sex.
If this describes your man, run - do not walk - out of his life. The next step will likely be physical abuse.( loveletterbox.com )
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